An example of how the cascade of interventions not only effects your birth outcome, but your chances of breastfeeding successfully as well. It doesn’t always happen this way, but more often than not this is the story I am told by
moms parents asking questions about their birth and breastfeeding trouble. As a mother who gave birth via induction with my first, I can 100% attest to the route that describes the baby being effected by the meds and having difficulty establish a good feeding relationship in the beginning. We persevered, but it was tough going for the first three months or so.
I did change the moms one but not the mother, since it is a self-description. This is a very good diagram that shows the ways that a hospital induced birth can go. These are things to be aware of if one is having a hospital birth which is why I believe if you are going to do a hospital birth, try to find a doula that will advocate for and help you during the process. There are many volunteer doulas in areas otherwise searching online for one usually works.
tell white men they look too serious
tell them to smile
tell them if they don’t want to get made fun of they should have thought of that before they left their house
tell them girls will be girls anytime they complain about our behavior
yawn dramatically when they talk
walk away from them mid-sentence
anytime they come to a decision that concerns only them, make sure they’ve really thought about from all angles. Play devils advocate.
interrogate them on all their choices, demand answers! demand justifications!
take up the whole sidewalk and make them walk around you
explain obvious things to them. speak slowly and enunciate.
feign kindness and then yell at them if they don’t give you money in return. tell them they owe you.
trip them and then yell at them when they get mad about it
tell them how cute they are when they’re angry
tell them to stop being so emotional
tell them to learn how to take a joke
tell them they’re a kill joy
"I will remember your small room, the feel of you, the light in the window, your records, your books, our morning coffee, our noons, our nights, our bodies spilled together, sleeping, the tiny flowing currents, immediate and forever. Your leg, my leg, your arm, my arm, your smile and the warmth of you who made me laugh again."
In love on South Congress - Austin, TX - April 2011
So these two cafés are owned by this couple who I think are married by now. Actually, the owner of Jo’s coffee was proposed to by her girlfriend spray painting “I love you so much” on the side of her building. :)
loving myself is very hard sometimes. but whenever i feel like i’m not doing enough to love myself i just go in front of a mirror and stare at myself. i talk to myself. i say “you are worth everything. you are a useful person. your clothes are cool. your hair looks nice most of the time. you have a cute face. i love you. i accept you. i don’t care how many people you’ve killed.” and then i feel better
"People do not seem to realise that their opinion of the world is also a confession of their character."
Ralph Waldo Emerson (via belowjob
I actually just heard this quote for the first time yesterday, and I think it is so important. Like yes, we have freedom of speech and you are entitled to your opinion but also know that we all think you’re an asshole and you just exposed yourself son.
(Source: referenceforwriters, via boibandmembergender)
"Aim to be as brave as James, as loyal as Sirius, and as smart as Remus. Basically, you should want to be Lily Potter."